What is anger management?
Anger is an emotion that may be experienced by people from time to time. This experience is considered normal when it can be controlled by the individual. However, there are certain people who face anger management issues. They get angry at petty things and often express their anger in a way that may be harmful or destructive to themselves or others around them. Oftentimes such disproportionate anger has some deeper, underlying reasons, such as a feeling of isolation, lack of attention, or not being acknowledged. Such behavior is usually responsible for causing complications in relationships and loss of psychological stability. With regard to health, excessive anger leads to a sudden rise in blood pressure, which may result in severe consequences.
According to Amy Morin, LCSW, “Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But many kids struggle to understand the difference between angry feelings and aggressive behavior.”
Anger management refers to a learning process that involves understanding the signs that trigger sudden outbursts of anger. The techniques learned here help the individual control their temper and deal with situations in a non-destructive way. Anger management helps ensure the physical and emotional safety of the individual as well as those around them.
Importance of Anger Management
- Teaches techniques to channel energy in a positive way and remain calm
- Helps to deal with pressure and stress related to work
- Reduces feeling of hostility towards others
- Aims at increasing harmony and productivity
- Prevents unnecessarily venting out frustration on others
- Helps to keep health in check by reducing increased blood pressure levels
- Prevents cases of probable heart issues by practicing certain techniques
- Helps control fears related to anger issues
- Builds better communication techniques that are more assertive
- Helps to build emotional intelligence to reduce chances of sudden outbursts
How is anger management done?
- Recognizing the causes – Anger management aims at understanding the real signs and symptoms of a probable outburst. These may be external events such as humiliation, loss of job, etc. or internal events such as thoughts of failure, frustration, etc. Recognizing these instances enable people to use their anger constructively and prevent serious consequences. It supports Ben Martin, Psy.D. claims that “anger can be expressed either directly through “lashing out” or indirectly through “passive-aggressive” behavior. With passive-aggressive behavior, individuals punish others by being belligerent, not responding, pouting, or simply running away.”
- Controlling impulses – This therapy helps people to see reason before acting on their anger. When people get angry they are unable to judge between right and wrong. Anger management helps to control impulses by looking at a situation logically. Thus, the individual is able to make an informed decision, reducing chances of destructive actions.
- Relaxation – Practicing various exercises and meditation techniques is a way to de-stress and vent out one’s frustration in a way that does not cause harm to the individual or others. It seeks to calm the individual. If this happens, then there are fewer instances where one has to control his/her anger and can find a permanent solution to the issue.
Online counseling helps by:
- Using cognitive behavior therapy for anger management
- Identifying personal triggers that can get individuals angry
- Learning to react according to the intensity of the situation
- Learning to let go of anger in situations where it is not required
- Responding to anger in a way that is harmonious
- Helping to develop self-control
- Helping to gain control over thoughts and actions
- Challenging behavior and thoughts that cause anger
Advantages of using online counseling:
- The individual does not have to change his/her schedule to get help
- Help is available all the time
- It is comparatively easier to enroll into an online counseling program
- The procedure allows individuals to talk about their regular progress and the therapy is fashioned accordingly
- Counseling is affordable
- It is accessible in rural regions
- Privacy and confidentiality of all the information shared
- Availability of help during anger outbursts
Always remember “connecting with a therapist can help you get through the “groundhog day” of never-ending cycles where you feel continually defeated.” says Chris Oneth LMFT.