Are you one of those soon-to-be-moms who had a bout of misery and panic attack when you found out you were pregnant? Did you ever feel guilty for being so unhappy about the supposedly good news? Then this article is for you. Let us find out the ‘whys’ and the ‘hows’ of pregnancy depression and how we can deal with them.
When you realize that your physical exhaustion has been too much lately, or you want to sleep more often than expected, or that you feel terrified thinking about what might happen to you and the baby, you may be experiencing prenatal depression. But be assured that you are not alone. Studies have shown that one out of ten expecting women suffer from depression at some point of their pregnancy. Generally, there is an overflow of hormones during pregnancy which may be coupled with feelings of anxiety, irritability, and chronic sadness. These emotions make pregnant women susceptible to depression, an illness that needs to be addressed.
You’ve been together for about a year now, and things are doing quite well. No big arguments, no misunderstandings that can’t be resolved. You feel like you’re lucky to have someone like him in your life – handsome, well off, and working in a prestigious company. A lot of your friends are envious of you, actually. You feel happy – you should be, right?
But there’s something about him that you can’t quite figure out. You have these fears sometimes that you just can’t brush off, and then you begin to question: Am I in the right relationship?
Mike is a moody, insecure, and depressed company executive who has no time to think about what’s going on with him. He is so preoccupied with work that he vents his insecurities and anxieties to his employees by often shouting at them and getting mad at them. When he goes into his office, he just closes his eyes and sulks in the corner, guilty of what he’s done but can’t find ways to get rid of the depressive feelings that are trapped within him.
Heather, on the other hand, is a rich and bored woman who lives a sedentary lifestyle. She often stays at home or if she’s out, she just shops for whatever she fancies – just because. She has been diagnosed with depression a few years back and her parents were shocked about it, all the while thinking that there was nothing their daughter couldn’t have gotten through with all her money and everything that she needed. They were unaware that Heather cries herself to sleep because she is lonely and depressed.
Depression comes to anyone – no matter the race, the age, or the economic status. There are an estimated 350 million people worldwide who suffer from some form of depression, and research suggests that after three or four years, it will have become the second most common reason for disability after heart disease. “Depression is different from passing sadness or temporary frustration with life’s issues. There are number of common signs for depression and they tend to be persistent.” That is according to Kurt Smith, Psy.D., LMFT, LPCC, AFC.
That is why online counseling for depression and other mental health conditions has become more and more popular these days. People like Mike and Heather are not the type of people who are open to discussing their feelings and issues with someone face to face. They are different yet their personalities reflect someone who feels guilty, alone, and insufficient despite their status in life. People like Mike and Heather can benefit greatly from online counseling.
Most online therapy communities utilize some of the most effective techniques used in traditional therapy, one of which is cognitive behavioral therapy. With the help of an online therapist, the depressed individual is guided into helping him form negative thoughts into positive ones. It works by replacing his negative ‘I fail at almost everything’ to a positive one, ‘I will succeed if I work hard for it.’ Thoughts like this one are instilled in their minds so that they become integrated into the individual’s feelings and behaviors. “therapy is a lot of work and this is important to keep in mind before starting. It’s imperative to understand this so that you can set realistic expectations for yourself.” Nathaniel Cilley, LMHC explains.
Online counseling also helps people with depression learn coping techniques at the comfort of their home. For most who do not have the luxury of time or money, they will do very well with learning these strategies from a therapist online. For someone who is timid and guarded like Mike, things will eventually get easier through open conversations and discussions about stuck-up feelings and frustrations. For someone like Heather, online counseling may guide them into realizing that one can be special by doing something worthwhile and special, or activities that promote mental wellness.
With online counseling, depression can be dealt with just as traditional therapy does. It has given all types of individuals the hope and the possibility for mental health wellness at the comfort of their homes – or anywhere they want for that matter. “Mental health disorders are real, significant, and common. We need to do a much better job of looking out for people with depression, educating the public to take them seriously and to understand how important it is to get connected with a licensed mental health professional for help. Because great help exists, if people are willing to seek it out.” Simon Rego, PsyD said.
Most mental illnesses are diagnosed in adults and only a few are known to be prevalent among the young, but what we are unaware of is that there are almost five million children in the United States and 20% more are diagnosed yearly.
When talking about mental illness in children, this often involves not only mental difficulties but also emotional and physical as well. Children should be assessed according to their physical limitations, their emotional capacity according to their age, and how they cope mentally in school according to their performance. Let us learn the most common types of mental illness in children, their presentation, and how they can be treated.