It is challenging to maintain wellness nowadays as it is hard to distinguish which are beneficial and which are harmful to our health. For instance, the society tells us to work hard to obtain stability, that if we do our best in our jobs, we will have abundance. However, too much work could cause us to be sick.
We regard hard work as an essential quality for success, but how much do we have to work hard? Is it worth it if we risk our wellness to get the promotion and acknowledgment that we desire? Would we be well if one of the essential aspects of our being has failed, may it be physical, emotional, or mental?
Necessary Things To Do To Keep Our Mental Health In Check:
Never Mind The Little Things.
People say it’s the little things that matter, but when it comes to dealing with mental health particularly stress, it is not advisable to pay too much attention to small issues such as a messy house. Yes, it says a lot when you can manage your time organizing everything around you. However, if the circumstances would not allow it, you don’t need to pressure yourself on being perfect. “Everyone handles positive and negative stress differently. And yes, for some, positive stress can lead to a negative response to stress, depending on the situation.” As explained by Jessica Harris, LCPC, LPC.
An excellent example of ignoring the little things is when you are a single parent. Just focus on your primary goal, which could work. If you still have spare time and energy to do other stuff like cleaning the house, then that’s the only time you should do it. Do not stress yourself over things which do not need to be an issue.
Being Selfish is Okay.
Being selfish could sometimes be the highest form of care you can give to your loved ones, especially your kids. When you become a parent, there would be nothing more important than the welfare of your children. You often put aside your wants and needs, but this doesn’t seem right. You have to think of yourself sometimes. Think of something you badly wanted that you could not get. It could make you feel sad and frustrated, and imagine this happening every time you receive your paycheck. Your life will be about self-pity and frustration.
Do you want to be a frustrated and depressed parent for your kids? Remember that they build their character from you, so if you spend most of your time lifeless and unhappy, they would most likely be the same.
Cut Your Ties With Negative People.
The secret to longevity is to learn to live in peace, away from the negativity and toxicity of some people around us. They could be our colleagues, neighbors, friends, and sometimes even family. Conflicts and drama may be a part of life, but it doesn’t mean we have to tolerate it by welcoming it into our lives. We can try to settle or fix any arguments or misunderstandings, but we don’t have to do it repeatedly.
If you need to cut ties, even with family members, so be it. The stress caused by toxic people can harm your health, and in the end, you only have yourself to look out for you. These negative people would not even be there if you collapse one day out of emotional exhaustion, so stop caring too much for other people and start caring for yourself. Remember “some stress is unavoidable but if you can keep perspective then it can be a whole lot easier.” That is according to Gretchen Flores, MA LPC LCPC.
Mental health is a part of our overall wellness, so it is a must that we make an effort in making sure it is always at its best. The first and best thing to do to take care of it is by managing and diminishing stress because we all know what it could do to us, like cause us severe medical health conditions such as heart and respiratory diseases. We have to remember that we function well and mainly live well if we are in a good state of being – both physical and mental. “There are so many ways stress creeps into our lives, yet if we take control of our time and make proactive and healthy decisions, we can stop these negative cycles and truly take care of our mental health.” Sonja Seglin, LCPC explains.